Think about times when a negative inner voice has been the thing that has undermined your confidence.

Before dismissing the voice, ask yourself: does this self-critical voice want something positive for you? What does it fear? How is it trying to help? Does it have your best interests at heart? 

Our brain is naturally wired to focus on the negatives and problems but with intention and practice we can shine a light on the good stuff too. 

Consider whether a different approach, even a different internal voice tone would help you. 

Try asking – what kind of coach, tutor or mentor would I want for someone I really care about and want to do well, and imagine this for yourself, gradually changing that critical inner voice to an encouraging and supportive one, one that does have your bests interests at heart and wants you to flourish and be confident  

Rather than allowing your threat system to keep steering you to where things might have gone badly, make a list of your strengths and positive attributes: the areas you can be confident about.